Life & Love

*** When I picked up Barbara and Steve from the ferry terminal on my island, Barbara glowed. She stood tall and radiant, her mermaid hair wrapping around her like a waterfall. She was as glorious as Stevie Nicks, and she waved at me as smoothly as a willow tree. She was confident and I was
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Welcome to “The Perfect,” ELLE.com‘s weekly roundup, where we lay out exactly what you’ll need for the perfect outfit, shopping list, Saturday night, or whatever it may be. In a shopping landscape where the options are endless, consider it a complete snapshot of must-haves. Whether you’re somewhere where you see 10 stars or a hundred,
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The night before what was indisputably going to be the biggest day of my professional career, I should have been up late prepping interview questions, packing extra batteries for my recorder, or even catching a few extra hours of sleep. Instead, I was staring at the thick, black hair on my legs in frustration. As
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Intent on making 2017 your Best Year Ever? We can help with that, thanks to our 2017 Coach of the Month series. For August, Senator Barbara Boxer, author of The Art of Tough: Fearlessly Facing Politics and Life, shares lessons learned over a lifetime in public service. This week, she recounts some of her mother’s
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Women get a lot of mixed messages when it comes to sexuality. On one hand, shows like Broad City, Insecure, Girls, and more depict frank portrayals of the joys, pitfalls, and complications of women’s sexuality, and encourage women to be open about their needs and desires. On the other hand, women are literally getting killed
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Relationships are weird, don’t you agree? Other people are unpredictable, and the endless combination of human interactions leads to some pretty frustrating encounters. In Nicole Knows, Nicole Cliffe helps us navigate all the ridiculousness relationships come with. If you have a question for Nicole, email ncadvice@hearst.com Dear Nicole, I like being a good friend. I
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Dear E. Jean: I have a Craigslist etiquette question. I met the man of my dreams—Stanford grad, modern-art collector, brilliant—on the Casual Encounters section. He was sweet and attentive, and for months I was able to indulge every erotic fantasy I could think of. But then he moved 70 miles away, and we stopped seeing
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Do those eclipse glasses come in Tom Ford? (#WishfulThinking) Ah, well. Grab your safety-approved sun gazing specs anyway. August is eclipse season—especially exciting news for North America. On August 21, as the Leo new moon puts on a Cirque du Soleil in the skies, we’ll celebrate the first visible solar eclipse in our neck of
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Dear E. Jean: Can you tell me who is this “inner goddess” whom all ladies apparently carry inside? Inside where? I’m having trouble finding her! I was never really a girly girl, and flirting doesn’t come naturally to me, so at 27 I’m a total seduction rookie. My experience with men can’t even be characterized
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The first time I kissed a woman, I was eighteen. While I realized that I was bisexual at a young age, conversations with my peers about sexuality had always been surrounded in judgment and disgust. Politically and religiously, I understood that same-sex relationships were seen as a moral failing in our culture. I planned to
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I got the worst sex advice of my life from an older girl at school—you know, the kind of seemingly experienced girl who smoked cigarettes and answered pressing questions from middle-schoolers, like “What’s a blow job?” One of her gems pertained to making a man feel sexy. She advised squeezing his biceps during a hook-up,
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Dear E. Jean: My new salary makes me nervous. It’s so much money, I’m scared that I’m going to end up blowing it. I’m afraid I’ll feel too comfortable spending it. How can I avoid losing my head? —Nervous Working Girl Aw, Hell, Working: You should lose your head. A woman who doesn’t lose her
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Happy National Orgasm Day! If you didn’t know that was a thing, that’s ok. I prefer to live every day like it’s National Orgasm Day. Between this and International Women’s Orgasm Day next week, the Gods of Random Holidays really want to make you aware of the state of your orgasmic life. Which is good!
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20 years ago, RENT was a hit Broadway musical, Angels in America was required reading in many English Lit classes, and Philadelphia was a Blockbuster Video must-see. But though AIDS continues to be a global health crisis worldwide (including right here in America), the disease has largely retreated from pop culture plot points… and become
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Dear E. Jean: In 2008 I made a sex tape with my boyfriend at the time. The affair ended badly. We’ve not been on civil terms since—in fact, we’re not speaking. Now, with a more sensible head on my shoulders, I’m applying to be an elementary school teacher. If I were establishing a career in
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One friend who recently broke up with her boyfriend looked at the books he left behind on their shared bookshelf, which included Frida Kahlo’s diary and Salt by Nayyirah Waheed. “If I was going home with him now,” she told me, “these books would definitely tell me that he’s a thoughtful man who values reading
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Dear E. Jean: Serious question: Does life actually get better after you get past your twenties? Success was already starting to happen to the Brontë sisters by the time they reached my age: 23. I’m falling behind my peers and feel I can’t catch up! Please tell me the thirties are better. —Your Wilting Gardenia
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